If you are having trouble in your marriage and perhaps your family is struggling but you want to continue to nourish your relationship, one of my reading recommendations is:
Stop Walking on Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder by Paul T. Mason, M.S.
I had gone to North Carolina to visit my dear friend. Not understanding why my husband wasn’t glad for me to go visit my friend, he was angry and jealous, I left a volatile situation at home.
When I got to N. Carolina, my friend had to work. Luckily for me it was in a mall with a very large Barnes & Noble bookstore. I started walking through the isles of the bookstore praying for some kind of direction and sign when my eyes landed on this title. Praise God! This book title was exactly how I was feeling. I was constantly walking on eggshells.
Borderline Personality Disorder put a name on my husbands mental illness. It described in detail how I reacted to his mental disorder. And it gave me direction in how to appropriately deal with and accept his disorder as his problem and not mine. It gave me hope and direction, for a little while.
So what happened. I think if my husband had been willing to look seriously at his own behavior and take positive responsibility for his actions, this book would have actually done a great deal of good for us. However, the extent of my husbands illness is much greater then I had previously suspected and he needs a lot more than positive reinforcement to get to a healthy mental and emotional state.
This is a great book if you are trying to understand your spouse’s behavior. It might even help your marriage if your spouse is willing to look at his/her actions and behaviors with some personal accountability.
Praying for your marriage success!!! Or your release from chains!!! Mostly I am praying for God’s grace to accept God’s will in your life.