The old cliché “you get what you pay for” absolutely applies for online dating. While there is nothing inherently wrong with sites that allow you to meet for free, many dating experts recommend only the paid sites.
Here’s why: when you pay for something, you are invested in it. As a person doing online dating, you want to meet people who are also serious about the process. The easiest way to figure out who’s in it for real is to deal with paid sites. The people dating on those sites are proving they are serious about dating by shelling out time and money.
If a guy or gal isn’t serious enough about finding a partner to spend $30 per month, that person may not be ready to take the relationship seriously as well.
Yes, you can “look for free” as many dating sites advertise. And that is a great start—look all you want! But when it comes time to actually approach someone with an email, make sure that you are a paid member of the dating site. It will help your credibility immensely.
If it sounds like too much money, think of it this way. For online dating a typical first date is to share a cup of coffee together and get to know one another. So at the most you’re spending $10 per date. A typical first date in the ‘real world’ is usually dinner, which is at least $50, depending on where you live and what kind of restaurant. So you’re spending much less money on first dates—money that you can put toward your online dating membership fee!
If you date for six months at $30 per month and you meet the love of your life—that’s only a $180 investment for a lifetime of happiness. Now that is a pretty good deal.