There is a reason the word “honestly” is there, it is not the result of some freak lab accident or the unexpected situation brought on by a broken Trojan, there is method to this madness. We as a society are constantly bombarded with this phrase every time we turn on the television, if it isn’t Dr, Phil, it’s someone else, bottom line being: if it’s said this much, it must be true. And while the same rule cannot always be applied to a Politician, in this case, however, it does in fact ring true.
You must evaluate yourself honestly and without bias if you ever hope to achieve any fraction of forward movement in your life. While it is true that perception is reality and a certain perception, if held onto long enough can in fact have the power to become said reality, the fact of the matter is that if we are not honest with ourselves during the inception phase of such a reality, any and all images or ideas we generate in said reality will be fractured in one way or another, as the foundation upon which such a reality is built is not an honest one.
By this point (assuming you have read this far) a few of you may want a translation in English, essentially, if you are not honest with yourself about what your expectations are, or what your end goal should be, you undermine your chances of ever reaching such a goal if you are operating under a false pretense from the start.
Take a look at yourself, honestly, without sugar coating or beating around any bushes. If you struggle with drugs or alcohol, if you are a sex addict, if you binge eat to fill the emptiness you feel inside yourself with food, if you resent your brother for being gay, but really resent him because he is happier than you, and you cannot wrap your mind around why that is, if you wonder if you yourself are gay…anything and everything, however insignificant, can serve a purpose in this exercise.
Is the breaking down of these walls and barriers going to be uncomfortable? You bet. Would you feel safer in your comfortable bubble where nothing can harm you and you can continue to dream of unicorns and your sexy co-worker that your wife or husband knows nothing about? Absolutely. If breaking down those aspects of your life were an easy feat, everyone would have done it by now and there would be no need to sit down and write this.
Some people are lucky and fortunate enough to receive their wake-up call from the universe, or whatever God or deity they subscribe to, whether it’s the overweight father who cannot keep up with his young, energetic, and overactive children, or the mother who suddenly realizes that the Big Mac and Diet Coke diet she has been on since high school just hasn’t ever cut it.
Whatever the case may be, some people are indeed fortunate enough to have such a card dealt to them. Others, on the other hand, might still need that extra push to get them into that clearing, and this self-evaluation might serve as that extra push for some.
Doing this self evaluation of sorts is meant to make one uncomfortable, surely, but let us not allow such discomfort to impede progress before it is made. Everyone has their demons and skeletons in their closet, and that knowledge alone may provide some comfort when difficulties arise. The purpose of this exercise is not to make you feel so down and out that you sink further into the hole that you have already dug for yourself, nor is it meant to accelerate the level of quicksand pulling you further away from where you are now and where you have always wanted to be.
This exercise is meant to serve as a platform to move forward, and that, by allowing yourself to be completely honest, you can see the flaws within yourself not as more reasons to pick up take-out, but see them as checkpoints in the game of your life, each meant to be unlocked at it’s own designated interval, and each required to level up and ultimately finish the game. Somewhere along the way you just might uncover or rediscover what drove you to Krispy Kreme’s in the first place and correct that impulse rather than run to get another dozen.
Though, of all the questions you might come across and ask yourself throughout this initial process, perhaps the most important question of all which you must ask yourself is this: Has what you’ve been doing up to this point brought you closer or further from your ultimate goal?
If you believe wholeheartedly in whatever strategy you devised thus far, you have done what many people have been unable to do for a long time. Feel free to pat yourself on the back, high five yourself, or perhaps even chest bump yourself on the nearest stable object as you put this back where you found it and walk away, you have succeeded.
If, on the other hand, you know without doubt that what you have been doing up to this point has not allowed you to reach the true potential that you always knew you had (or perhaps still don’t realize you have) then read on.
The strategies and information contained within may not work for all, as this is not a How-to account that must be followed religiously without fail, feel free to pick and choose at your leisure, keep what works, discard what doesn’t, in the end it’s about making these strategies work for you.