I look up the word in my “The Strongest Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible.” It is a very big book. I find:
Genesis 2:18 New International Version
It is not good for man to be alone. I will make him a helper suitable for him.
I look the word up in the dictionary that sits on my shelf and I refer to most often in the “Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary.” It gives the definition of help as:
To give support or assistance to. To make more pleasant or bearable. To further the advancement.
If I am created to be in service to another, o.k., great! I feel comfortable with that. But I can’t help thinking that most of the wars that kill our sons are started by men. Am I supposed to support that? Most of the laws that regulate a woman’s reproductive rights are put into legislation by men. Should I blindly support another human being simply because of his biological make up? I think a wiser approach is using common sense when putting myself into service of another.
After Adam took the apple from Eve – did you notice he did not deny himself – although he had heard the voice of God himself – he still ate? Adam was given authority over Eve but he didn’t observe it. Instead he choose (let’s remember free will) to eat the apple instead of saying “no, I don’t think it is a good idea.” For me this is the first example of the woman being blamed or taking negative responsibility for her husband’s actions.
Yes, Eve did offer the apple to him but why doesn’t Adam get punished too?
Another Genesis verse that references husbands is Genesis 16:
<blockquote>So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian slave Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife.</blockquote>
In chapter two of “Created to be His Help Meet” Mrs. Pearl addresses the dilemma described to her in a letter from a wife who is dealing with a flirty co-worker of her husband. Mrs. Pearl instructs the wife to be flirty and sexy when her husband gets home so that he will want to be with her.
If we are to follow closely our Lords word then shouldn’t the wife willingly give her husband to the flirty co-worker? After all, if she can’t give him what God has promised him maybe someone else can?
My advice would be let the flirty co-worker have him for a month or two. Then she would find out just how flatulent, stinky feet, leaving the towels on the bathroom floor, always complaining, roaming eye, catch this man is.
Abram heard God’s promise to give him a child. He is the one that shared the news with Sarai – but when Sarai didn’t believe Abram she presented Hagar and, don’t you know, Abram didn’t say NO. He could have said “No Sarai. God has promised us something else. I will not take something that God did not provide.” But he didn’t. Sarai has been blamed for Hagar’s son Ishmael. Abram didn’t take responsibility for his actions; he just kind of went with it.hese two examples set women up. Man gave birth to a woman once and we’ve been hearing about it ever since.
Genesis 2:20-23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”</blockquote>
I think the assumption that the responsibility for a happily ever after marriage is solely the responsibility of the wife, is to be disputed. If your marriage isn’t successful, it may not be your fault. I know in my own marriage it isn’t entirely mine. I won’t say that I won’t take positive responsibility for my actions but I refuse to believe the entire responsibility lies on my shoulders. I pray for God’s strength and wisdom in my words and deeds and that the true love is Christ on the cross and that will come though to my readers. Amen.