A few days ago one of my children asked me “Mom, why did you wait so long to get a divorce from dad?” WOW! Had it really been that bad for them? Had I just not noticed how my marriage was hurting my children?
I think there are two ways that I was able to keep going in my marriage even though it was obvious to a lot of people that it wasn’t healthy and I wasn’t truly happy. The first, is God. I prayed, a lot. I read scripture, a lot. The Holy Spirit moved in me.
The Second, I read, a lot. My husband in the last weeks he lived with us told me “everything would be better if you’d just stop reading so much.”
<strong><em>Peacemaking for Families </em></strong>by Ken Sand is a valuable asset to me. I used this book to teach my children about being peacemakers for Christ. We learned together appropriate ways to deal with conflict. Unfortunately, my husband didn’t read it with us. He didn’t even want to talk about what we had learned and so while I tried to model for the children a different way to behave, my husband walked in the door and completely negated it.
This is a great resource for solving conflicts.
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