I think one of the biggest issues I am having today with Debi Pearl’s book <em>Created to Be His Help Meet </em>is the idea that being a help meet is my only God given purpose in life. All the Great Creator created me to be was a help meet?
That is not the message I am getting today from the Holy Spirit. The message I am getting in every fiber of my being is that I have not been living up to my God given potential. I have not been living the life God intended for me to live. My life has not glorified God to the extent I was made for. Instead I have been hiding behind the shirt tales of a husband who used and abused his relationship with me under the guise of a “Christian marriage.”
In fact my light has been hidden under a bush of masculinity instead of in the light of my glorious worth. God did not create me (or you) to put our entire self worth, direction, goals or purpose in life, to be a help meet to some one else. Instead God created us for God’s glory and has enhanced our worth, direction, goals and purpose so that we might truly attain a life that is abundant and glorifies God and God alone.
I have used the excuse of submission to prevent me from reaching and striving to be the woman God wants me to be in the relationships God wants me to have. Instead I have enabled a person who neither appreciated my worth, God’s purpose for my life or our marriage. I have wasted seventeen years running from the truth that my life was less then the life Christ died for.
To have a strong voice and clear intention is God’s plan for women. To be able to say, “I don’t like the way you are talking to me and I want it to stop,” “I feel hurt that you didn’t return my call and now you are angry with me for calling a second time,” “I want you to respect that I DO NOT want to have sex right now,” glorifies God.
God will be delighted in you when you seek God and NO ONE else and that certainly does not mean living a life of muted bondage. God is glorified when the women God created become whole, confident and complete in their walk with Christ.
Find your voice, find your strength, find your worth, and find the love that you deserve.