I want to be loved for who I am with all my baggage, human frailty, and inconsistent behaviors because that is the way Christ loves me. I do not have to manipulate God or behave in a way that is less than my imperfect self for Christ to love me.
I don’t want to plead for my spouse to listen to me. I mean REALLLY listen. I don’t want to feel bad because he can’t or won’t or just doesn’t care enough to try. I don’t want to have to fight for his undivided attention. I don’t want to have to wonder why he doesn’t call me, at any time of the day, just to ask how I am. I do not want to manipulate him or trick him into behaving the way he ought on his own.
I don’t want to have to beg for affection. I don’t want to think that if I just say or do the right thing my husband will give me the affection I crave. I don’t want to have to parade around and act in some way that is demeaning to me just so that my husband might be physically attentive. I don’t mean a quickie in the backroom so he can get back to whatever he is doing somewhere else. I mean true, intimate encounters that may or may not lead to sexual intercourse.
I want him to WANT to be with me more than anything else in the world. I want him to treat me like I am the most precious gift God has given him. I want him to think of me as the queen in his world. I want to believe that he provides a glorious castle for me. I want him to support and encourage me to succeed on whatever road God has created for me.
I am a child of a loving, kind, glorious King. I am worthy of great love, great works and a great life that is all God intended for me when I was still in the womb. I am worthy and so are you. Don’t settle for anything less.
New International Version (NIV)
<blockquote><sup>25 </sup>Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her <sup>26 </sup>to make her holy, cleansing<sup>[<a title=”See footnote a” href=”http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%205:25-55&vers… her by the washing with water through the word, <sup>27 </sup>and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. <sup>28 </sup>In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. <sup>29 </sup>After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— <sup>30 </sup>for we are members of his body. <sup>31 </sup>“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”<sup>[<a title=”See footnote b” href=”http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%205:25-55&vers… <sup>32 </sup>This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. <sup>33 </sup>However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.</blockquote>